The Era of Owning It

Your career is not owned by the market, your manager, or even your Mom's expectations.

You are the one who gets to choose your impact in business. You know your story and your why. Now, it's time to own every layer of it. The next step is play and fun—owning every inch of what brought you here to support others. You are a woman with a blend of heart and smarts to bring more compassion into this world while delivering on what you were designed to support.

So how are we going to do this?

First, we're going to activate the word “no” and we're going to have fun with it. It's time to call back your power. For years you have been giving away your power by saying “yes” to everything, everyone, every task, and every role. You are ready to not spend another week, month, or year doing the same shit.

Will people feel caught off guard that you're saying “no”?

Of course - you've trained them all these years and months to get a “yes” from you instead of a “no”. It's going to be an adjustment for them and that's what makes it so important for you to be really strong in your story and in your why. Together, they’re your anchor to help you navigate the reactions you will get from people.

For years you've been doing a career that's immensely supportive for others, yet you've done it at the expense of yourself. Now it's time to get aligned.

Next, you'll want to really be on top of your energy and watch for leaks. When you're taking up space, if you are doing it with the wrong energy it's not going to support you. It's not going to lead you to success.

The main energy leak that I’ve seen the most damage from is gossip. Listen, I like a good episode of Vanderpump Rules with all their drama and gossip. But I have to keep it there. I can't do it in the career space because it does not nourish me. It does not support me well. Our energy is gold. When a woman is taking up her space, she has a queen-level energy. She's going to support people - she's going to be there for her team beautifully yet not at the expense of her health, values, or othering people. She rises up.

Everything that you say and think has power. If you're in the middle of gossip it is going to be an energy leak to keep you from taking up all of your space in the most influential and impactful ways. There’s no time and no energy to spend on gossip, because there's nothing good that comes out of that. It does not serve the world. It does not empower other people. It does not empower yourself.

Are we perfect at this? No.

Every single one of us at some point in time have been part of the gossip train. We've all done it. Going forward, when you're starting to have conversations with your career friends do a quick gut check. Figure it out. Filter it out. Your gut will tell you in a heartbeat whether it's gossip or work related mess that needs collaboration on. Keeping the energy leaks at a minimum is the goal because the people we’re here to support deserve so much better than us being one foot in and one foot out in honoring people.

The last thing is making mistakes. It's going to happen, friend. How many times have you ever seen a child play perfectly on the playground? We are taking up our space and in doing that, it's a lot of play. We're experimenting. We are getting out there. We are retraining our brain and that requires a lot of play.

You're not going to do this perfectly, but that doesn't mean you stay down. This is why it's so important to have the anchor of your career story and your why - it will rally you to get back up again and not fall back into old patterns.